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Coming out to your squadron.

Started by wwiijunky7, April 22, 2013, 09:29:52 pm

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wwiijunky7

So I've told a few good cap friends that I'm gay. But I'm not gonna tell all the cadets but would it be a good idea to let my cc, and my c/cc? I'm the first sergeant, so that's why I don't plan on telling everybody because I don't want younger cadets to disrespect me or what not. I'm 18 if you were wandering.

Eclipse

I can't imagine why you think anyone should care.

If it comes up in conversation, be honest at the level you are comfortable.  If it doesn't, no "announcement" is necessary.

With that said, considering you posted this on a public forum, with your email address visible, it's likely a done deal.



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That Anonymous Guy

 I'm obviously not in your squadron but to me it doesn't matter and it shouldn't. If you believe that they should know then go ahead and tell them.

CAP4117


Garibaldi

Not to sound harsh, but we have an unofficial policy of don't ask, don't care. I've known plenty of gays and straights in CAP and in the real world and truth be told, the straights got in more trouble than the gays. To be honest, I applaud your forthrightness regarding your sexuality.  :clap:

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Pylon

As the above posters have said, it's completely irrelevant to CAP whatever your sexual orientation may be.  Nobody needs to know one way or the other.  It doesn't impact your performance of duties, your ability to be a productive member of CAP, or anything else material in the Cadet Program.  In my opinion, the best course of action is to keep these sorts of personal orientation, desires, or interests out of CAP.
Michael F. Kieloch, Maj, CAP

SarDragon

Quote from: wwiijunky7 on April 22, 2013, 09:29:52 pm
I'm 18 if you were wandering.


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That Anonymous Guy

April 22, 2013, 10:58:31 pm #8 Last Edit: April 23, 2013, 10:45:21 am by That Anonymous Guy
Not to be tasteless but we're not the Boyscouts and unless it affects your ability to perform your duties (which it doesn't) no one cares unless you want them to.

Devil Doc

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lordmonar

Quote from: wwiijunky7 on April 22, 2013, 09:29:52 pm
So I've told a few good cap friends that I'm gay. But I'm not gonna tell all the cadets but would it be a good idea to let my cc, and my c/cc? I'm the first sergeant, so that's why I don't plan on telling everybody because I don't want younger cadets to disrespect me or what not. I'm 18 if you were wandering.
Not their buisness.....feel free to tell them if you want....but no reason to tell them either.
PATRICK M. HARRIS, SMSgt, CAP

mwewing

Like other members have already shared with you, sexual orientation has nothing to do with CAP. Therefore, the decision of who you tell, along with the when and how, is entirely personal.

As with coming out to your other friends and family, reactions will vary with each person. While your sexual orientation shouldn't matter officially, you should think about how coming out might impact your relationships within CAP. Make sure that your coming out process helps you live happier and healthier in the world around you. Telling people just for the sake of being open, may or may not lead you to that goal.

If some of these other cadets are indeed good friends, then it might be beneficial to come out to them. I would not recommend coming out to other cadets just for the sake of coming out, nor would I recommend coming out to your CoC just because of their position.
Maj. Mark Ewing, CAP
Commander
West Michigan Group (GLR-MI-703)

cap235629

I have found that more often than not when people come "out" the people they are coming out to are like "tell me something we didn't know".  I say it is really a NON issue not worthy of your concern.  Just be yourself and live life to the fullest.  You are a cadet, not a gay cadet, not a straight cadet, a cadet.  I HATE labels.
Bill Hobbs, Major, CAP
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Private Investigator

Quote from: wwiijunky7 on April 22, 2013, 09:29:52 pmI'm 18 if you were wandering.


So you got CPPT completed? Welcome to CT  :clap:

Bobble

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Way more than I would ever want to know.
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NIN

Quote from: That Anonymous Guy on April 22, 2013, 10:58:31 pm
Not to be tasteless but we're not the Boyscouts and unless it affects your ability to perform your duties (which it doesn't) no one cares unless you want them to.


Thats always been sort of my slant.  Whatev's.

Fraternizing during CAP activities is frowned on anyway, so if you wouldn't do something with a member of the opposite sex (holding hands, etc) in uniform and on CAP time, you shouldn't be doing it with a member of the same sex, either, right?

Either way, when its on your time it should be your own business.
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Critical AOA

Have any of your fellow cadets made a big deal out of being hetero? 
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CAP4117

I don't think it's a question of making a big deal out of it. I imagine the coming out process is less about making it some kind of issue and more about just knowing that the people around you support you no matter who you are. It's for the cadet's benefit, really. I think it's good that you all are saying it's a non-issue to the squadron. That's probably true. But it is an issue to this cadet, and he/she should be allowed to resolve it and know that CAP is a safe place for him/her.
Just my .02

J2H

 If it doesn't affect you or the mission why bother at all
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bflynn

Quote from: CAP4117 on April 23, 2013, 09:24:09 pmand know that CAP is a safe place for him/her.


Is it?  CAP is not required by law to avoid discrimination based on orientation.  We've had this discussion before. 

This is a can of worms you would prefer to avoid opening because it leads to division in the organization.